OK, my relationship with my best girl friend Jessi is an odd and long one. We met in pre-school, and lived next door all of our lives. K-6 grades we were really best friends, together all the time. In 6th grade we were also best friends with Julie. In Jr high I got two new friends, Jenni & Cristina, that Jessi didn't like and so we went our separate ways. In 9th grade I still was friends with Cristina, and became best friends with
her friend Erica. In 9th grade I met my still-boyfriend Jessi
e and didn't have time for other friends. Sad but true. In 11th grade Jessi
e started going out with his friends more, and I returned to Jessi & Julie. 11-12 grades Jessi, Julie and I were best friends again. College came and Jessi & I stayed in Cincy but at different schools, and Julie moved about 3 hours away. Jessi lived in the dorms and I stayed at home. Next year Jessi will be living at home & I'm looking for a place by school. Through it all I have been able to tell her anything, even if I haven't talked to her in months. Another thing that made it bearable was that we always had a big group of friends and other interests. So...my message for you, BU, is that you an drift apart and still end up best friends in the long run. You haven't talked to Candace in a long time but you'll know how comfortable you feel with her when you get together again. My advice would be don't rule her out all together but keep separate interests so you're never left stranded if Candace bails on you. I hope things go well for ya.
Heidi