You guys are so awesome!
In the email she wrote me she did say that she misses me, so i do think she feels bad for not calling me. I told my mom and she said its probably because she has nothing to do and is bored. Like i said before, my parents dont really like her or her parents. My mom says she is a backstabber and will jsut turn around and hurt me whenever something doesnt work out her way. By the way, I am really close with my mom and dad
I always feel like I am the one trying to make the friendship work. I am the one that used to call her to go out, call her to say hi, email her, etc. Before she went to school out of town and was still in the same city as me, she would never ever call me. That would make me so upset! Plus, another thing is that i cant mention anything that i want to get or that i recently bought because she will either go and buy it before i do, or buy something exactly like what i bought. I know its hard to believe, but she would do that on every one thing i mentioned. Eventually i just stopped telling her things i liked.
The boyfriend issue: Well her and Josh have been going out since junior year in high school. I remember she invited him through one of our guy friends to go with her to a drill team formal. He agreed and about two weeks later he asked her go out with him in a letter. She didnt want to since she didnt really know him and wasnt attracted to him but said yes anyway. I think she uses him for his money because everytime she wants something she will tell him knowing he will go out and buy it for her. Josh was a big issue at Baylor because while he was at a school out of state, she would get on AOL and chat with him all night long. Sometimes i would want to go to a fraternity party or what not and she wouldnt want to since she had to talk to Josh. I would at times stay in the room with her since all our other friends had already gone out.
So, there are other factors besides her not calling since she has been home that come in to play with me calling her or not. I have been wanting to email her though. I would feel more comfortable expressing my thoughts thorugh that, afterall, that is what she did- she emailed me.
I do feel like we have grown apart. I dont want to sound negative, but it doesnt seem like she has changed for the better, so even if we do start hanging out again, things will probably go back to normal. Thats not what i want, but i guess its asking too much for her to change for me.
Its true, i dont need a best friend right now. Actually at work i met this girl that is so sweet and she is a great listener. She does have a different lifestyle than me though. She is my age, but married and with a two-year old daughter. I know its not true, but i just feel like sometimes im too old to find a best friend. Meaning that most people that are best friends have known each other since childhood.
Thank you all for your advice. When i decide what to do, I will let you know
Newbie, take as long as you want with my email
[This message has been edited by bucutie02 (edited July 12, 2001).]