Hi bucutie
!!! (I'll hopefully reply to your email today or tomorrow - ughh I'm so behind!)
Anyway, I'm so sorry that you're having troubles with your friend
. Unfortunately, friendships change over the course of time as people change. This year, I had a REALLY good friend that used to be my best friend from 2nd grade to 8th grade. Well, I don't know, we just drifted way apart, as we both sensed our differences. Unfortunately, that drifting apart led me to not even talking to her anymore! Sure, if we see each other at parties or whatever, we'll say hi and stuff, but then she goes with these people immediately to go get high and do drugs. It's really sad b/c our bond used to be so great.
However, I have this other friend. We drifted apart in middle school, but this summer, we are pretty close! It's funny how life works sometimes. She called me to tell me that she really missed me and such. It was really sweet. Sometimes, the weirdest things happen!
I guess what I'm trying to say, is, that don't feel bad at all of the distance between you and your friend. Unfortunately, distance happens eventually, even between the best of friends sometimes. But, I just don't think it's right how she is treating you! Granted, I'm definitely on the outside, so take my advice with a grain of salt
. I just think it's not fair that you are trying to give so much, yet she kind of is taking you for granted.
As we all know, friendship takes two to work. I think that she wasn't very respectful when she got into town and didn't get in touch with you for two months. However, maybe it's worth trying to see what happened to her during those two months - maybe some circumstances kept her from contacting you?
Also, I hate to admit this (lol), but sometimes Moms really DO know best. My Mom always tells me something, and I always reply with "you don't know anything! its my life!" but she ends up being right sometimes. It seems like you and your Mom are really close
. If so, I would probably trust her judgment, as she probably knows the most of your and Candace's friendship, outside of you and Candace.
I would say, try to meet Candace in person for lunch or something. Make sure not to schedule anything else that day (and tell her to do the same!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) so you guys can catch up - no matter how long it takes. It's amazing how once you come and talk again how much catching up you will do. If she seems very apologetic and really wants the friendship to work, I say give her another shot
. If she keeps on cancelling on you or says she's busy or something, you might to take in account that she might not be worth your time and energy. Or if on the lunch date, you two jjust seem distant, unfortunately it might not work out.
It's really weird b/c sometimes the best of friends can end up thinking "How did we ever become friends in the first place?" I for one know that I've changed a lot each year of HS. It frightens me sometimes when it seems like I am growing apart from some ppl that I've known since kindergarten!
Also, bucutie, don't worry at all about not having a best friend or whatnot. A best friend WILL come to you one day, who knows, she might be around the corner!!!! You don't need to have a best friend right now, esepcially if that friend isn't very considerate of your feelings!!!!!! I hope this helped some, I really hope that you and Candace can talk it all out
. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!! We're all pulling for you bucutie
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P.S. My best friend is in Spain right now, and we still contact each other by phone frequently! So I think the best way to remain friends is by frequent contacting
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