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Originally posted by LSUgrrl126
thanks so much for y'alls input! i'm sorry i haven't been able to get back on here sooner to thank y'all, but just knowing that someone cares enough to respond to my message makes me feel really good.
i'm still tossing the idea around about doing fall rush (pardon my un-PC terms, i grew up hearing "rush" and "rushee"). i just don't want to be hurt so badly again, because i never dreamed that i wouldn't get a bid. i hear rushing as a sophomore is even more difficult, so this makes me worry even more.
LSU's Office of Greek Affairs has NOT been terribly nice or helpful. whenever i call them, they're very short with me and i hardly get any info from them. i'm beginning to feel as though i'm going to have to physically go to their office and sit on whoever's desk until they'll talk to me and just maybe give me some basic info about COB or spring rush works here.
i missed the greek table on club sign up day. everyone told me "there's 300 something organizations at LSU, you'll find one for you" and most of the clubs are ethnic organizations (not hating here, just saying), clubs for incredibly athletic people (ha, not me) or clubs for watching anime or building rocketships (exaggerating about the rockets, i just couldn't find anything that really appealed to me). i walked around for about 10 minutes and went back to the dorm in tears because i felt like i would never belong. (this is becoming quite a wordy post, but i felt like i was always that girl who was always the one left out in high school and thought that college would be totally different from that)
i really didn't mean for this to turn into a "woe is me" thing, but i still feel so angry and upset about it because i know i belong somewhere on the row and because i didn't end up where i was meant to be, which ended up being incredibly hurt and sad.
in short, i still feel as though i belong in a sorority if some group would just give me a chance (ok, so i did get a chance, but there were 989 girls to choose from!).
once again, thanks for the input, and hopefully some more LSU sorority members will see this and maybe offer me some more advice.
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I don't have a whole lot of rush advice for you, because I think everybody's got that covered, but I can try to give you some life advice, because I've been where you're at. My freshman year in college I had some major issues with shyness and not being able to find a niche. Here I am three years later and while it's been a slow process, I've definitely found some things that make this huge campus smaller (I go to the University of Wisconsin, one of the biggest schools in the country). Try everything that looks like it might even be remotely interesting at least once -- one of my favorite activities that I've gotten involved with is the literary magazine that I only applied to because I wanted something that would occupy my time and that had to do with my major (English), but I soon figured out that the people in it are among the greatest I've ever met AND it's completely broadened my horizons in terms of potential career choices. Some of the other things I've loved the most are things I never thought I would do -- been a part of my sorority's Humorology (Greek mini-musical) cast even though I had no previous experience singing (outside of the shower) or dancing (anywhere but at parties), played intramural soccer . . .
That said, being Greek has been an integral part of my college career and I wouldn't change that. I definitely recommend going through informal rush (a very different animal from formal, at least at my school, and much less stressful) and checking out formal again in the fall if you have to -- but keep in mind that if you get cutm it isn't a reflection on you, especially with sophomore status. LSU has one of the biggest, more cut-throat rushes in the country. Some wonderful girls are bound to slip through the cracks in a system like that. Also, keep your mind open -- some of the sororities that might not have impressed you during formal rush might seem totally different during informal rush. Overall, just try not to take things too personally! A sorority's judgment of you should not affect how you see yourself. (I know -- easy to say, harder to do, right?)
Lastly, don't feel like you have to get your entire life and social system in order right now. I know that sometimes I felt pressure to have it all figured out by, oh, the end of freshman year, maybe early sophomore year. It didn't happen. I'm a completely different person now than I was then. I've added and changed friends, priorities and interests every year. Don't stress out too much about finding your place RIGHT NOW, because if you don't worry too much about it and just keep trying new things, eventually you'll find it.