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Originally posted by sphinxpoet
See! That is what ya need to say to men. Get off the superficial things that they creat to attract women cause quite honestly reading this thread your requests were not unreasonable but men think women only go for the superficial things. I agree men set a standard but my standard of a woman is a woman bonded in Christ, that is the most important thing to me and therefore I deflect negative forces away from me all the time. I need all men and women to do the same set a bar for yourself and then enforce it. Believe it or not a good woman in hard to find as well. THere are a lot of good woman on this board and what does not kill you will make you stronger and God is just preparing you for that perfect mate.
Sphinxpoet
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When I was younger, single and unmarried, I felt the same as many young single ladies do as reflected by their statements.
And I was also told by men that I wanted too many big ticket items--or I was too high maintenance, etc., etc., etc...
Older women would say to me to tell these fellas, "So what, yes, I am sadidity!!! Now what???"
IMHO, which I find ironic, that men just fall in love with what they see--or rather their perceptions of a woman... She must be fancy free and foot loose--but look good without breaking a nail--with her hair fierce and that blue suede Giovanni Versace suit...
Whereas, women fall in love with what they feel the man is doing or saying to them--the intuitive nature...
We could go on and on with the differences. But my main point is, yeah, it takes us ladies to look WELL to attract men... MEANING, we need to take care of ourselves, physically and mentally to attract any man...
And we know when some men are tryin' to run a game on us... What we need to do is be prayerful and spiritual that will lead in in the "best life path"...
And finally, the bruh that is tryin' to do more than make a $1 outta 15 cents, if he doesn't look homeless, has a decent steady job--where he doesn't get fired the next week--that requires a SSN and pays either his own rent or his own mortgage (not his mama's) on time, then the ladies need to give this bruh a chance...
And both of these folks must find common ground beyond sexual intercourse... Do you read similar books? Listen to similar music? Like to get outdoors and exercise, regardless of weather? Hang out in bars and try to be with the stars? Likes family related things? Whatever it is with your habits, does his coincide with yours?
I.e. since my husband and I work in related fields, we can talk about the ups and downs of our professions and keep each other on task... Since work consumes 80% of our lives, it works for us... It may not work for others... But at least we have broken one barrier of communication when we can think on the same page... And this concept was more important to Mr. AKA_Monet, than it was to me... In fact I barely realized the relevancy of this concept of communication--it goes for most men...
MEANING: Men love to talk about their work if they like what they do. If they don't like what they do, that is an instant flag--especially if they aren't doing anything to change their situation or working toward improvement of their situation... Then they are just complaining... And if they like what do as a job, then they make a living out of it--just the way men are built, I guess...