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Originally posted by Little E
Also, do you know what actually happens to that girl who claims she was raped? The fight to get someone to believe you, to make decisions regarding prosecution, the exam, facing all your friends, and then facing him and his brothers/friends. It can be the worst experience for a young woman to go through. /soapbox
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Definately.
This whole thread is a great example of how people make snap judgements of a girl who was raped. I mean, we got a minimal information and half the people hear are trying to find a way to sound the all clear for the guy.
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The fact is that unless you were seriously hurt during a rape, reporting it and going to court will have your reputation pulled through the mud. What you wore will be analysed. Any flirting you did that night will rule against you. Bruises and signs of struggle will be discounted as "foreplay". You will become a social pariah.
Why would this mother write Dear Abby? Well, I think this thread shows how unwilling society is to acknowledge date and marital rape. The mother could honestly be confused. Maybe Dear Abby wasn't the right way to solve her question, but that doesn't make it any less likely.
One more time:
As the letter reads, it is rape. If you think the latter is false or wrong, that's different. To be honest, I'd love to think that this letter was written by some 13 year old girls who just wanted to see if they could get in Dear Abby - because then no girl was raped.