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Originally posted by sugar and spice
I don't know -- maybe this is just me, but hey, if I went to a frat party at age 16 and willingly had sex with a guy, I wouldn't tell my mom about it. What would be the point of telling her, when I know she's going to disapprove, unless it was unconsentual?
Add to this the fact that this girl was 16 and the frat boy was probably not, so even if it was consentual, in some states it could be prosecuted as statuatory rape as well, if the mom chose to take it that far.
As for the post after this: What part of the law do y'all not understand? When a girl is intoxicated or under the influence of alcohol or drugs, in most states she is not legally able to give consent. Even if she says it's okay, for all practical purposes, having sex with her is breaking the law. Now is this necessarily very practical, fair, or romantic? No, but it's the law, and you're the one that broke it -- so if some girl decides to press charges for date rape, you can't pass yourself off as the victim.
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I have worked with kids who were worried that they'd gotten pregnant under such a circumstance and were, therefore, having to tell their mother about it. Some attempted suicide instead, leading them to be admitted to the hospital, when the story then came out.
ETA: I found a list of legal age of consent and am SHOCKED that it is 16 in many states (but not in Virginia, where this letter was from.. where it is 18)
16 AND drunk? Any college age man who touches a drunk 16 year old is a fool.
SirHornyToad: Yes, you are in a precarious position if you sleep with someone who is drunk. You really need to understand that the vast majority of women put some value in sex and probably believe that if you're sleeping with them, you are in a relationship with them. Yes, there are some women who are into one night stands, but it's not the majority and most will feel violated if it's only a one night stand and they didn't know it ahead of time. Out of self preservation, you would do best to not engage in such behavior. Women are rarely looking for a one night stand, they are looking for a relationship no matter how drunk they are. When they wake up the next morning and realize that you aren't seeing it as they do, they will definitely be upset. Since you know you are at risk for having "raped" a drunk woman, then don't sleep with drunk women.
Dee