greetings, soror sigma xi dove -- congrats on becoming a finer woman!
many things associated with sweethearts are regional AND temporal--meaning that depending on the era in time and the part of the country that one resides, one will see different manifestations of the group.
how do i know?
as someone who WAS a sweetheart of a fraternity in 1989 before becoming the Zeta Woman that I AM TODAY, and who has lived in different geographical areas, i have seen stuff come and go...
please PM me for the rest, 'cause i'd like to make myself clearer on some items not appropriate for a public message board.
hope you're having a wonderful holiday weekend soror, and i hope to speak with you soon.
peace and blessings,
soror tru