I'm a big Tony Dungy fan (on many levels, not just football) but I think there is some "reaching" going on here.
Terell Owens is the most controversial, and best wide-out in football right now; it makes sense that he'd be in the MNF show open. I don't watch Desperate Housewives, but I hear there are no black women on it, so any star from that show would be white. The show open was a bad idea more because it had nothing to do with football, than its racial/sexual overtones, IMO. Given that ABC was apparently set to go forward with a shameless, tacky cross-promotion, it was likely to be along the lines of what we saw.
As for the allegedly "outraged" NFL
deal with scantily-clad cheerleaders you've pimped on NFL sidelines every week since like, forever, and then holla at me about your "moral outrage."
As for Dungy's Kobe comparison, dude damn near committed a crime; that's a long way from anything we saw on MNF; so, while I see the comparison he was trying to make, it's not on-point, IMO.