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I went to a school where all but one of the sororities were between 80 and 126. To some women, that's huge; to others, it's small.
The way I feel is that there is always, always going to be cliques within a sorority. That's true whether the group is 20 or 200. Girls divide up by pledge class, interests, personality type, whatever.
It's true that in a group of 200, you can't be close to everybody in the group, but to me that's not what a sorority's about. There are plenty of chapters of 60 or even 20 where not everybody's friends, either. And that the thing about large chapters is that it forces diversity of personality. Because my chapter was 100ish girls, I was sisters with girls who were nothing like me in terms of personality, interests, major, family background, race, religion, class, talents, etc. -- and I wouldn't trade that for anything in the world. Even though I wasn't close to all of them, there wasn't a single girl in the chapter that I wouldn't be able to go out with on a Friday night. And I admired every single girl in that chapter for different reasons, many of them because of their differences from me, not in spite of them. And I would much rather have that than be in a group where I am best friends with all of 25 girls who are all exactly like me.
Furthermore, I'm sure any travelling consultant will tell you that there are big groups that have more brotherhood/sisterhood than the small groups. I see that on our campus, in fact, among some of the fraternities (although for others, of course, the opposite is also true).
Sisterhood does not mean being best friends with every single girl in your chapter. It means sharing a bond and caring about someone even when you don't necessarily know them that well -- the same way we share a bond and care about our sisters in chapters across the country even when we have never met them.
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