[33girl]

I think it depends on the school, but lavaliering was definitely NOT taken lightly by the lavalier-ers or lavalier-ees at my school. It wasn't a "pretend engagement." Most, if not all, of the people, in my chapter who were lavaliered went on to marry the guy - and are STILL married to them. I mean, sometimes you just know.

When you're in college it's a lot easier to afford a lavailer than an engagement ring. It also freaks the parents out a lot less.

If something happened, yes you gave the lavalier/pin back - it would be horribly disrespectful not to.

Would you get pinned by someone else? Are you intimating that you shouldn't? That's kind of like saying you should never get married if you broke an engagement.