[AKA_Monet]

Been there, done that, got a T-shirt...

It has been my personal experience that when I ran up under a player the quicker I would lose his interest. The reason I would lose them so fast and move on to the next player was because, well, I expected a player to hurt me. I "trained" myself to have a frame of mind to expect a man to play me and "doormatted" myself to expect it out of a man. Later, I determined that it was easier to deal with being treated like chit from jump that to be dumped at the end and be left wondering what I did wrong... Basically thinking that if the relationship was shitty to begin with, then I couldn't complain about being hurt in the end...

That cause a huge spiritual bankruptcy in my heart that needed several years of "tantric therapy"...

Then when I thought I moved on from luser men I would allow to hurt me, I found myself in "love" with a "dodo bird-type player"... But what made this situation different was I literally had a "lightening bolt" sent from Heaven that told me to I MUST paradigm shift--to the quote-end quote--"Nice Guys"...

Now all men have a "nice guy" in them. Unleashing it can be difficult. So timing is everything... Some men are in a foul frame of mind and will mindfcuk anything that moves... True players know how to rock a girl's world... That is part of the game... Other men are really "nice guys" and will do all that it takes to be with the one they love. Those men are in short supply at a youthful mental age--i.e. males mature much more slowly than females of similar age... And most "nice guys" are what most women call goofy nerds with limited social skill sets until they get drunk... But those are the men that will be the CEO's of something... Look at Bill and Melinda Gates...

But once you meet that "nice guy" and you DO like him--that is when all relationship deals can happen within weeks... But you have got to like him in return, 'cuz if you don't he can pick up on it much more quickly than a player losing your phone number after you slept with him...

If you want the player types, then you've got to go in knowing that he will always have that "charisma" on women... Carousing, partying, philandering, etc. If you are okay with that (and most women are lying when they say they are), then hey don't expect much out of your life beyond what you have right now--meaning, no house, no car, no partner to parent with (ask my sister in law about that right now), no nothing!!! Because playerz always got to play...

But it is relatively easy to get a player, just like it is to catch a cold/flu. Players like the chase. They like and want what they cannot have. They need saiety... But once they get it, they're gone...

And that's how the game is played...