I agree Val.. as I'm very verbal about...
James: I'm not sure I understand your question. Are you calling me neurotic?
I probably am.. which is why I haven't found a man that I can tolerate living with! But I'm aware of that and am much happier alone!
Dee
ETA: I think, James, that you are actually asking "What if there is a good reason to change yourself?" Well, I am fully supportive of self improvement, if you're doing it for yourself, not for someone else. Therapy is pretty ineffective if you're just doing it because someone else wants you to change. Same with breaking addictions. You can't quit smoking for someone else, you have to be internally motivated, for example.