[midwesterngirl]

Okay James.Despite your disclaimer of respectful disgreement, your post was too simplistic and more than a little patronizing.Are you suggesting that someone who has a difficult time of the AI process, simply isn't good enough?

For many that do AI,its more now than mothers or housemothers or women who have,as you said,already rendered service to the sorority.Many groups encourage members to invite friends and relatives to meetings to encourage the AI process. These people are going in blind and have to sell themselves to the chapter.The members don't know this person from Adam.They have to show the members that they are worthy to be a part of them.That isn't going to happen with one meeting.Often pnams are invited along to activities for months before they are told that they don't fit in and won't be extended the opportunity for a bid.It takes more than that one sponsor liking you to be extended a bid.You have to have the unanimous backing of the alumnae chapter.

Also pnams are often dealing with people who are highly suspicious of their intentions.I think the surge in alumna initiates is a relatively new thing.Pnams are often up against older,powerfully entrenched woman who don't quite understand what the pnams want from them. That can be quite an obstacle.

I had a very very easy AI experience.It was seven months from initial contact to initiation.I experienced no bumps in the road what so ever.I consider myself very lucky.In a perfect world your scenerio should be correct.However, to disregard what others have experienced just to fit the parameters of your opinions is just plain insulting.