In my original post I did ask if it was "ok" to reveal the secrets of defunct or absorbed GLOs, after mentioning that it appeared that my sister had shared Sigma Iota Phi secrets with her husband. I honestly don't know if her reasoning is "it's ok to tell your spouse anything, even things you've sworn to keep secret" or "SigIPhi is defunct, so my oath is no longer binding, and I would be comfortable telling the secrets to anyone and everyone".
I'm not "angry or hostile" toward Carol, just disappointed that she apparently broke her word. As I stated at the start of this thread, I feel that my oath to Sigma Iota Phi is still binding. I'm not happy that Bob knows the secrets, but at least she didn't put up a website or anything.
My husband and I can share almost anything with each other...
almost. He keeps his Masonic secrets; I keep my sorority secrets. We don't share with each other things our friends have told us in confidence. That doesn't mean our marriage is any less strong. Our respective oaths are not in conflict with our wedding vows, and honestly, I don't thnk he particularly cares about the green and purple catsuits and what the sheep was really used for.