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Originally posted by ADqtPiMel
If my relationship with my significant other reached the point where he absolutely couldn't bear to not know my sorority secrets, I would realize that I was with a crazed control freak and break off the relationship...not tell him.
Somebody explain to me why any reasonable husband would demand to know his wife's sorority ritual. 
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I completely agree with this. I just don't see any appropriate situation where the sharing of ritual secrets would occur. If he asked nicely, or in a joking way, then I would respond also in a lighthearted matter that it was secret. If he demanded to know, I would tell him he was a complete idiot. I think more likely than not, it's a case of loose lips on the sorority member's part... and you know what they say about loose lips.
Honestly, I think you're taking the "two become one" way too literally. I don't need to share my sorority ritual with my future husband, just like I don't need to share all I know about calculus or every single mundane detail of my day. In a normal relationship, the vow we take as GLO members to keep all ritual proceedings secret should not be an issue.
I think part of the problem is the sensationalism that takes place when we talk about the secret and sacred parts of our ritual. If you're constantly discussing how secret it is, or if you make it seem shady, it's in the nature of human curiousity for others to want to know. I encourage descriptions of ritual events that don't stimulate the imagination- no one needs to know that it's more than a meeting or a simple ceremony. If you tell someone that initiation is similar to a wedding ceremony, where a member pledges to uphold the values of the organization, I doubt they'll need or want to know anything else.