[PhoenixAzul]

It really sucks when your boyfriend isn't Greek, doesn't understand, and fears that you're being pushed to have sex with ritual blow up cows or something. When I was pledging, it broke my heart to tell him "I'm sorry honey, I cant tell you where I was tonight". or "I can't tell you what we're doing tonight" or "I don't know what time we'll be done" or "it's none of your business" or "I can't come home, it's Inspiration (hell) week". I just joked with him that it was time for the ritual beatings (now what I tell him when I'm going to chapter).

But at the same time, i really hope he understands that these things are super important to me. I can't even tell my parents and I probably wouldn't even tell my priest. Some members don't know parts of our ritual for various reasons, and we have to keep that from them till the right time (they eventually experience it, just a matter of timing). And keeping secrets from a sister sucks, because we pride ourselves on being open to eachother.

I think I would like to propose something to all the other GC'rs out there...never ask anyone about their ritual. Things that are public, fine. Some pledging activities are meant to be public. But it's just bad form (in my eyes) to ask "what happens when you're initiated"? (answer!: We have a ceremony that marks our transition to full sisterhood and then we go and have dinner).