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Jeni-
I have to cosign with what pretty much everyone is saying.

1) you should DEFINATELY talk to your brother. your feelings about being excluded will only develop and you might just explode at some point. Talk to him, express your frustrations.

with that...

2) you NEED to tell your parents that it is UNACCEPTABLE that you are not on the guest list for the rehearsal dinner. Screw that fact that you aren't in the party (which you should be counting your blessings) but to leave you out of the rehearsal dinner is just plain rude. Your parents need to stand up to this bridezilla and her mom and say "our daughter WILL BE ATTENDING".



Also, as for your brother "getting a pair of balls". I honestly have to say don't hold your breath and I'm saying this from personal experience.

One of my good friends married two years ago. I love her to peices but she is a manipulator. She manipulates her husband into doing her every whim. When they get into an arguement, she somehow turns it into his fault and then he goes out buys roses and chocolates and apologizes to her, when she hasn't even apologized to him. She is lazy, he does everything for her down to getting her water. She has been too lazy to get a job for over a year, so he has forgoed his ambitions of going back to school so that he can work as an assistant manager at Blockbuster to support the "lifestyle she has become accostomed too", although they can't afford it. It is deeply sad and it is deeply troubling because her husband DOES NOT have the balls to stand up to her.

Obviously I don't know your brother, but it sounds like your brother is a lot like my friends husband, both extremely manipulated by the females in the relationship. Until your brother is receiving therapy to regain his self esteem so that he can "take control", it doesn't matter what you or your parents say to him. My friends husband just started therapy and I pray that he realizes sooner rather than later to stand up to her and tell her that he is not her "doll".

I wish I could give you some more advice. My heart goes out to you.

I know I would be extremely pissed if I were in your place. If my brother was marrying someone I hated who was completely dissing me. A woman who is manipulating him. It would drive me nuts and I would feel hurt like you must feel.


((((((((((Jeni))))))))))))

Brianna