First... i must say thank you for posting to this thread....
second .... i must also say I DON'T know anyone who is having a baby i was thinking along the lines of WHAT IF because i am contemplating adoption in the next few yrs.

I have been hearing what Carnation and aka_monet said about the birth mother and father and california time periods to chnge minds and that scares me. From my reading California does allow a large window of time for a Birth mom to change her decison and that is scary if you have bonded in the period of time.

I have been reading up on how to go about this without going through agencies and by going through friends of friends of friends with letters expressing interest to adopt and if they should know of a person who is preganant and wants to consider adoption.

I have one child and he is my life and my heart and soul and i so very blessed to have him in my life, but I always wanted one more and i know he wants a brother or sister as he has expressed it to me much more now than ever before. I also think it is a such a rare gift to be able to say i adopt you and i chose you and give a child a family and loved ones.


It seems california does have a lot more laws on the books regarding adoption I am just t rying to see how to go about this without going through agencies and doing this alternative ways.