Ok guys, simmer down
I'm also married, but I haven't said a peep to my husband about SigIPhi's or AEPhi's secrets. Nor has he told me any Masonic secrets. I took a vow on my wedding day to support and cherish my husband, and he vowed to do the same for me. I took an oath when I was initiated into SigIPhi, and another when I was initiated into AEPhi, which included not revealing the secrets of either org to anyone not a member. My husband no doubt took a similar oath when he became a Mason. These oaths are not incompatible with wedding vows. I didn't swear on my wedding day to love and honor my husband and tell him what my sorority's letters mean.
I believe Carol's thinking is that she took an oath to SigIPhi, but SigIPhi doesn't exist any more, so it's ok to share the secrets. (I didn't get a chance to talk to her privately and ask, so this is conjecture on my part.) I don't share that belief. I took an oath to SigIPhi, and even though the org doesn't exist any more, my SigIPhi sisters are still around... besides, I'm just not the type to break my word.
I guess if she had to share the information, better that she tell her husband, the person she's closest to in the world, rather than spread it all over the internet or something.
One of my sisters told me an interesting story. Seems her grandfather was a Mason, but he was kicked out because he had enlisted his wife's help in learning his degree work - thereby revealing the org's secrets to her. Oops.