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In retrospect, my post probably did come off as harsh, judgemental, and as some have intimated, gossipy. My point was that in rare instances, some women (as it was in the case I described) look to their sorority to provide support when dealing with issues that are best dealt with by mental health pros or social service workers, even addiction counselors. To me, if a PNM is acting the way some have described in this thread, it's probably a red flag of sorts. And it's probably better that they're not a member of your chapter after all, because believe me, it's emotionally draining for everyone else.
kddani, just so you know, I don't need to "stretch" the truth because in this case, truth is much more dramatic than fiction. You have no idea. It's easy to be smug and write it all off as "the chapter should've supported their sister", but the problem is, that's the same manipulative line "Brenda" used to make the chapter hesitant to hold her accountable to her behavior.
The chapter absolutely bent over backwards numerous times to help (counseling, etc). The university also tried to help and, as a last resort, told her if she couldn't "get it together" (her behavior was that destructive) she would be kicked out of school. Our nationals absolutely wanted her out, but our chapter felt it wouldn't be right to terminate her, so they just asked her to leave mid-semester, after much soul searching.
At any rate, while silly and sometimes creepy, at the same time I think "psycho PNMs" like the ones described in this thread can be a red flag too. Good luck picking out the good ones!
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