[preciousjeni]

I need to clarify some things. LOL!

1) I will be at the wedding and I'm willing to serve in any capacity because I love my brother.

2) I really don't hate the girl because I haven't heard her side of every story (when I created this thread, I was fuming).

3) She is without-a-doubt manipulative and cruel. She says the most horribly abusive things to my brother. I've been in this kind of relationship and I know he's broken and that's why he's staying with her. He told her that he will never disagree with her because he believes that's what love is about - he said this at a dinner with our family and his fiancee, so it was all out in the open!

4) I'm terribly offended that they didn't include me on the rehearsal guest list. I'm doubly offended that I was originally a bridesmaid, because my brother expressed how much he wanted me to be, but now I'm booted.

5) My brother already had his groomsmen written out a long time ago. He was so excited about having his closest friends. He NEVER mentioned her brothers being groomsmen until this weekend after he had spent the week with her.

6) They made an agreement that if he came down for fall break and spent a lot of time with her, she'd be willing to drive him around to see friends...otherwise, he would have asked my parents to pick him up - this is out of his own mouth last week before he came down. This still doesn't explain why he had to pay for a cab to get him back to the airport when his fiancee and her family "couldn't" take him (which was also originally in the plan.)

7) My brother and I are very close and she has made comments to him about it. I've heard a lot from him but not her directly, but she put me over the top when, a while back, he was on the phone with me and in the background she was whining about how he's aaaaaaallllllwwwwaaaaayyyyyyyyssssss on the phone with me. Ok - we talk once a week! Good grief!

8) I think I'm going to stay out of it and let my parents tell him what they think. I can't stop them from doing that, but I can be here after they talk to him to support and comfort him.

9) There is A LOT more to the story about the girl and her (manipulative, condescending, ...) family, but I don't want to sit here and complain any more than I have already! I just let off a little steam and then you all gave me some great responses and insights.

10) Despite what she does to me or how things go down, I will ALWAYS be a Lady about it. I would never take her day from her. Just because she's acting ridiculous doesn't mean I shouldn't maintain my class.