[honeychile]

I'm surprised that you haven't been the designated Guest Book attendee, punch server, substitute bride for the rehearsal, or something like that, since you're not a bridesmaid. Maybe the bride has forgotten about those little duties?

Since this is really bothering you, I'd make a list of all the things you WON'T have to do, which a bridesmaid would have to do, such as throwing a shower, getting a nasty dress with shoes/hat/gloves to match, cheesing it up for phony-looking pictures ("oh, look at the sixpence being put in the shoe!" "oh, your ring is sooo beautiful!"), etc. That should be pretty cathartic.