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Originally posted by James
I don't know if this is true or not, but I have read that women will often be unconsciously resentful of men that are less successful or have less status than they do.
And that resentmen comes across in various little ways destroying the relationship.
I know women that have been involved with men that have lost their jobs and grown very resentful of having to support them, even though the men may have supported the women earlier in the relationship.
I would say that a man wouldn't blink an eye at being the major if not sole financial supporter of a relationship.
Why the double standard ladies?
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I dunno James... I can tell you from another topic somewhere that I cannot remember right now, that this issue has been brought up before...
It is a HUGE issue in the African American community... If a powerhouse sistah dates "inside the race (like inside the box)", she is liable to find many brothaman have less money and less education than her... If that is not a problem for her, then she will be fine... Unfortunately, most men (in general) do not like to be "emasculated" by a woman, period... And many powerhouse sistah's "must" do that kind of thing for office-political reasons--e.g. if she has to go to the Board of Director's dinner capital campaign with some sort of date, then she best show up with properly dress dude with knowledgeable speaking skills... And it gets worse if she has to show up to church with a date...
Most sistahs go it alone or not at all. They immerse themselves in their careers and work, because at least they look like they are doing "something" related to their career. That eventually leads many "single-but looking for brothaman" sistah's extremely lonely and detached from any human relationship...
Just go to my sorority's website and search for the pinings of sistah's who are dateless for numerous occasions... In fact there is some saying or poem that discusses this very topic in the African American community...
I, myself was one of the whiners... But somehow, I became blessed to meet the brothaman in my dreams... Most sistah's are not as blessed as I am... Which puts me in a very precarious situation...