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She is not all that upset really. The event is kind of surreal because she doesn't remember much of it.
I was actually wondering if I made her more upset about than she would have been.
When I talked to her it was a day or two later and she was still really processing it.
I was kind of like . . . wtf? I kept getting more irritated the more I asked questions because it seemed the guy was out of line to say the least.
The story didn't come out as clearly as I wrote it. At first she was just relating it as a one night stand, it wasn't until more information came out and I asked more questions that the situation seemed inappropriate.
Her initial reaction was kind of, wow I had sex with a cute boy, I wish I could remember it. It might have been a good time.
What I was wondering is whether our experiences are not shaped to a certain degree by the reactions of the people around us.
Would she have thought the guy was as out of line as she ended up thinking had I not said anything? OR would she have just thought "my bad."
She was still in the processing mode after all.
I felt kind of bad after talking to her because I wondered if I had made a situation that would have rapidly faded into a more significant event.
Perhaps I should have been non-commital and been totally guided by her subdued reaction rather than perhaps making the situation of more importance than it needs to be.
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