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Originally posted by cutiepatootie
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I have not yet exp the bday invite thing yet since this is my sons first yr in school.....so you have to give all kids invites in their class ...i don't see where that is fair....maybe your child doesn't get along well with some others ...i think you should be able to hand out to who you want and that should not be a school rule. yes mailing them might be a better way, but the school should not infringe on your bday party plans for your child. I mean if susie q and i dont get a long and she is having a party i wouldnt want an invite anyways...

Like i said this is first yr for me so i get to exp things i didn't deal with when i was in school.

Our school has the rule...NO DISTRIBUTING PARTY INVITATIONS AT SCHOOL PERIOD and I really like that. The school district's thought is...we are here to promote education NOT facilitate social lives . Phone calls and mailed invitations are the way to go. I tell my children that who they invite to their parties is not to be advertised so no one's feelings are hurt because we have a limit on who we can invite and you should try to get along with everyone. Handing out invitations at school starts "cliques" and encourages that snippy behavior that humans can exhibit. Why reinforce it?

As for the problem child at the party. We usually do parties "out of house" just for this reason. Those parties we do have in the house, we have a rule stated up front "no one off the first floor (no basement, no bedroom floor)". Of course having the bedrooms upstairs really helps the situation

I would definitely no include problem child on anymore invite lists. I have done that before .