Let's take this one step at a time...first you said there's nothing redeeming about your job. I worked at a job that I also hated, however I was getting something from that job that I couldn't get from any other job experience. Is this the case at all for you? Once I got everything I could possibly get from that job, I left. I had exhausted all my potential from that job.
Second...you say there's no one you like there...not one person? If this is the case, then you don't have much support and not much opportunity to network. This is another red flag for you.
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... they have spent a lot of time training me thinking I will be around for a while. They have even point blank told me that they would be upset with me if I left.
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This is THEIR problem, not yours...don't make it your problem. The old adage of, "everyone is replaceable" is true. My position (that I referred to above) required the person to have a Master's Degree in Counseling
AND be fluent in ASL...how common is this combo? I was told by my supervisor how upset she'd be if/when I left. Well, I dropped the bomb with a resignation letter and she cried...but I'm out and happy and she isn't....and life went on in the office without me. It'll go on without you too...they'll get over it.
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The thing is I want to begin applying for other jobs, but I would need references, which I couldn’t get from here at all, and this is my first real job, and I just know if they found out that I was looking they would fire me. Has anyone else been in this situation?
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Fourth...has anyone said they'd actually
fire if you were looking for another job? I doubt it as that would be a reason to sue the company for improper termination. You may not be able to get references from them, but actually, if you've never talked to your boss about this, then there's no way s/he knows how you really feel. S/he may even be willing to write a recommendation if s/he knows what's really going on...you could even use a copy of your review (if you've had one). I had to do this as our company had a policy that our supervisors couldn't write letters of recommendation. I took my last review, deleted personal info (like SSN) and submitted this as proof of my comptency.
The thing is you still have SO much time in your life..and lots to learn about the business world...this is a GREAT opportunity for you...use it to build up your learning experiences and then continue on your career path with that experience behind you...j
Good luck!