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Originally posted by valkyrie
The fact is, when it comes right down to it, marriage makes it harder for a person who is no longer satisfied with the relationship to leave, and I think most people find it comforting to think hey, if I really let myself go, never want to have sex and become a shell of my former self, he/she will have to stay with me anyway.
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Wow...when I first read this I was shocked. But after I took a step back I realized that you're probably right...many people may feel this way.
Marriage isn't easy. I've been married over 9 years and it's constant work. It's like having a child in that for all the sacrifices and difficulties, the rewards are worth it. At no point do I "let myself go," my sex drive has never been higher and I feel that my marriage has only enhanced my inner being, not leaving me as a "shell of my former self." I guess I'm lucky that I have a spouse who feels the same way and works equally hard to make our marriage work...
Don't get me wrong. We've had our ups and downs. But like it was said in "Miami Rhapsody" with Sarah Jessica Parker, "You have good days and you have bad days. If you work at it, you'll have more good days than bad." I believe this is true.
I never want my spouse to feel like he "has to stay with me anyway." If he does, then he's in it for all the wrong reasons and I wouldn't want him to feel obligated to stay in a marriage that makes him miserable."
Just my two cents...