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Originally posted by thetalady
I have read that "Marriage provides the slender, silver threads that help hold a couple together during trying times". It is a physical demonstration of your promise that your spouse can count on you for love, emotional support, and someone to depend on.
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That may be true for the rare good marriages. I admit, I have been divorced twice and therefore have a tainted view. However, I carefully observe my married friends, co-workers, etc and VERY few of them have what I consider to be a "good" marriage. For some of them, they are happy with situations that would make me miserable. Some of them are just totally unhappy but staying in it anyway.
I received NO benefit from being married to either of my husbands. I found it be suffocating and emotionally draining.
Oh wait, there was a benefit, I didn't have to mow the lawn. That's the only one. I can hire someone to do that though.
I won't marry again. I think two tries is enough for anybody. As I told a minister friend of mine "A person can only say 'Til death do we part' so many times and still hold any credibiliy". She said that if I wanted to marry again, she would change the words to "Til we part" for me. I just laughed and said "Thanks, but no thanks!".
My vision of the ideal relationship is having his and hers houses, side by side, with no combining of finances or living space.
Dee