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Originally posted by texas*princess
However- when many young women go thru rush, say SuzyQ for example, they will only want ABC sorority because they are the "top tier" sorority on campus. They have the most mixers, with the best fraternities, they are the reigning flag football champions, they have the most homecoming queens, or they are just a popular sorority in that region (south, north, west, east).. whatever. Regardless of how or even *IF* SuzyQ connects with the women in that ABC chapter, that is all she wants and is unwilling to even consider a chapter of "lower status" filled with sisters she may actually connect to. In other words, she just wants ABC for the wrong reasons. For some people who join for the "wrong reasons", it ends up being a miserable experience anyway because they don't mesh well with the ladies who are already there, and may end up deactivating later. (Not saying it always happens, but it's definitely possible... esp. if the new member only joined for the "status" and not the people there)
Your reason for only rushing your fraternity and the reasoning of SuzyQ here are entirely different.
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I'm not sure this reasoning justifies the use of the sorority's rush program (I use rush because it's not recruitment, it's rush). Now if the girl who just wants to join ABC goes through a traditional fraternity recruitment and has her eyes only for ABC but doesn't mesh with ABC or its values then members of ABC can sit her aside and say, "We think you're nice, but don't think you are a fit for our organization." The whole process is a little more personal and protects both interests. Having a girl go through a whole rush process and in the end get snubbed is not protecting her.
And this I guess is a side track to the whole discussion, but doesn't sorority rush process seem a little un-personal. I know for fraternity recruitment I'm sitting down with members and having discussions about what I get by joining and I present what I can give and there is real personal feelings going into it. In sorority rush, it seems like potential rushees are just herded around and nothing is personal.
It also seems monopolistic. Why not let other organizations on campus and have competition to get the best members. I'm sure numbers would go up for everyone because the members would have to work for what they get not assume a quota.