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Originally posted by James
IT was nice of him to set-himself up so that you could get revenge and closure.
ITs such a wierd situation. Here you are in relationship bliss and all of a suden children come up and thats it.
I am trying to picture a rational conversation about that.
He says, " I don't want children" And you respond, "ok." Because you respect his ability to make a decisiion as an adult.
And then he suddenly flips-out on you and starts a big fight about how he is not going to have kids, even though you jut rationally agreed that it was his right to make up his mind and not be questioned.
That doesn't make sense. It sounds like you questioned him about in a way that sparked an argument . And that you ended up breaking up more because you picked a fight with him than the actual content of the argument.
Then he realized as he cooled down that he still liked you and all, and maybe he over reacted by letting the relationship end because of that heated fight you provoked.
So, he sets out to kiss your ass and try to get you back. And you are all mad and defensive because you think he is a jerk and you're hurt and want him to suffer.
So you give him attitude while he tries to win you back until he gets frustrated and you provoke another argument.
Which is really not fair because most guys are not good enough at dialogue to talk their way past anger nd defensiveness, even if they want to bother.
But you get to feel a little bit better because you got to vent at him. Closure after a fashion.
So what now?
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Nice recap.
I don't know what happens next. I guess I take it one day at a time and move on.
To Rudey: I knew him well in high school. I just never thought of him as dating material until now.
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