You don't sound like you did a poor job, it just sounds like you are fairly judgemental of the way your kids live, want them to conform to what you think they should do and are willing to punish them with financial sanctions.
A little controlling maybe lol.
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Originally posted by AnchorAlum
My husband was a Sigma Chi. This is horrible for the parents and family and friends.
My kids went off to college and we thought we had talked to them, said all the right things, and even let them have a drink now and then to take away the mystery or whatever you want to call it. After all, we certainly partied ourselves in college.
But I will say I was still shocked to hear about the level and frequency of partying- the number of mixers and socials - two or three a week at my daughter's school.
How it's normal at some places NOT to take a class that would actually meet - gasp - on Friday! Who could possibly make it after getting in a 3-4 AM from Thursday night?
Needless to say, our kids went Greek, partied too much, and we finally had to crack down. Our son had to work and put himself through school part time because he partied so much and we said pay for your own party, then pulled the plug on the $ pipeline.
Our daughter was so put off by the hard partying and drinking at her University she chose not to go back. She so regrets going Greek and falling into a bad routine. In the meantime, I regret that we even allowed them to pledge. They both have walked away from their GLO's.
I know it must sound like we did a poor job with them, but they are really fine now and grown up. So much of what you try to teach your children is drowned out by peer pressure.
Thanks for letting me vent, but I feel so horrible for that mother who I'm sure wishes she could hear her son's voice just one more time...
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