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Originally posted by Queencece
He said that if he ever got a woman pregnant, he would "man up" and take care of his responsibilities, but he wouldn't be happy about it at first.
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Let me be blunt:
I am sorry, but from my life's experiences, children are not just "responsibilities" to be fulfilled... They are waaay more than that. Irregardless of the maritial status, a baby on the way--especially an unwanted pregnancy--makes folks do many things--even change their whole attitude about life in general... I've seen it done numerous times...
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My goal was not to change his mind, but to enjoy the time that we had together because I thought we enjoyed each other's company. I guess I was wrong and I just wasted the last 3 months thinking the wrong thing.
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Of course, you NEVER want to change your love's mind--that is called manipulation. It is a pity, he only is beginning to realize about enjoying your company...
And don't think of it as wasted time... I've been there, done that... Think of it as a love-lesson and move from there--a spiritual quest in this life to expand your understanding about yourself and your interaction with others... Should you really feel bad because you loved and you made yourself vunerable???
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One more thing....its funny that you say he will contact me to see how I was doing because as I type this reply I noticed that he sent me a text message asking me how I was doing and how concerned he is about me. I don't think I'm going to answer because I don't think he deserves to know. I need to get away from him and thinking about him and I can't do that with him calling and texting me.
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Now here come the introspection and self preservation... This situation calls into question how well do you trust and know yourself? If you love all that you are and open enough to expand your boundaries to whatever is possible, then you would need to decide that whatever your love's problems with who he is and what he's all about--you can choose to deal with them or you can choose not...
The fact that he is "text messaging" you is maybe his way of apologizing for how he ended it.
Maybe he is trying to reconnect with you... Maybe he's not...
Either way, you need to decide if it has ended for yourself--of course on your own time when you feel up to it... If you do not want to speak to him now, fine. But is some way, you will have to speak to him...
So do you want to be as ignorant as he was to dump you and yell and scream at him?
Or will you respond in loving-kindness?