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Originally posted by AKA_Monet
Don't be shocked that he comes back to you saying that he's sorry about how things went down between you two.
The question is, how are you going to deal with it?
Another question: At 23 years old, for a man to say adamantly, he NEVER EVER wants kids with NO compromise, what will he do if he gets a woman pregnant?
If he NEVER EVER wants kids, then he needs to get a vasectomy... That will be the ONLY way he can ensure that he will NEVER EVER reproduce and have his haploid spermatogenetic DNA homologously recombine naturally with any woman's ovarian DNA for fertilization and placental implantation...
Otherwise, I find it rather odd for him to say anything like that to a woman he is dating. And for him to break up with you because you have those kinds of thoughts is petty and you are better off without him.
I think the best thing he said to you is he rather not waste his time knowing what you know about him now and continue on dating even though you know you cannot change his mind about "his life's decision"...
But another truism in this, that dating you and the way you describe your relationship has changed his life in someway, which inherently affects some aspect of his life's decisions--leading one to think that in some way the anger he spewed was your relationship was at some level thought provoking enough for him to quasi-reconsider some positions...
So, don't be surprised when he calls you to see how you are doing and try to get back with you...
Another question is: what have you learned about yourself that you can take from this past relationship and move on to the next one? Or will you move on?
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I sent you a PM because I was a little confused, but to answer the other questions....
He said that if he ever got a woman pregnant, he would "man up" and take care of his responsibilities, but he wouldn't be happy about it at first.
I haven't quite gotten that far with what I have learned yet. I guess I can say that I am still in shock. I will eventually move on because he is not the only man on the earth. I mean the pain is still fresh, but at least I know that I am not alone in this.
Another thing is, you bring up a valid point about him not wanting to continue to date me. My goal was not to change his mind, but to enjoy the time that we had together because I thought we enjoyed each other's company. I guess I was wrong and I just wasted the last 3 months thinking the wrong thing. Oh well, everything happens for a reason. I do believe that there is more to the reason he broke up with me, but I don't know what it is.
Thinking about it makes me nauseous. I need to chill before I get angry because I fear that is the next stage.
One more thing....its funny that you say he will contact me to see how I was doing because as I type this reply I noticed that he sent me a text message asking me how I was doing and how concerned he is about me. I don't think I'm going to answer because I don't think he deserves to know. I need to get away from him and thinking about him and I can't do that with him calling and texting me.
Just trying to make it to a sound mind again.
Thanks!
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