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Originally posted by valkyrie
If you need to sneak around because you're afraid of family pressure, are you really ready to be getting married?
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Ummm...I don't remember ever saying we were sneaking around. I said that we prefer not to announce any plans for a wedding until after the New Year. After 6 years, both our families know the other exists. We have never snuck (sneaked?) around. We just prefer to keep our plans private for the time being.
Unless you come from an EXTREMELY traditional family of Mexican Catholics, you really can't understand what it's like. 5 of my elder sisters had to elope to escape the pressure brought down on them by the family. It's sad that things have to happen this way but it's really how we have chosen to do things. I have seen what the intense pressure & scrutiny can do ESPECIALLY b/c we are not of the same ethnicity or religion.
It's easy for people to make snap judgements. It's easy to tell me to just be mature about it & tell them & eventually they'll get over it. Unless you've spent the last 6 years in my relationship & trying to deal with what we've faced, then I wouldn't be so hasty to make these judgements on someone else's relationship.