[SmartBlondeGPhB]

I personally take the "don't ask don't tell policy".

I don't ask what they did on a weekend night, they don't tell me. I figure I probably don't want to know.......

But the actives also know that I remember how I was and don't hold it against them.

I've been around enough that I've always gotten respect from them (at least in public, god knows what they say in private).