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Originally posted by HotDamnImAPhiMu
If you're having sex, you owe it to YOURSELF to ask if you're exclusive.
You need to know because your health is involved. And if he won't tell you, leave. That's indiciative of a whole host of issues -- he's disregarding your feelings, disregarding your health, being elusive, avoiding conflict.
It's up to you how you bring it up. What works for some girls is saying, "Let me know if you start sleeping with someone else." It's not an ultimatum, it's not a requirement -- and if the guy cares about you, it's not going to be an issue.
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I agree, that is the only time I believe in having "The Talk" - if sex is involved. If it's not, and we're enjoying each other's company, I just continue to enjoy his company and wait and see where it goes because I hate "The Talk" and just think it puts pressure on one or both of the people.
You can usually tell if it has become exclusive and if he is your boyfriend by the way he acts and what he says to you and his friends... This is key, sometimes his friends will say, "so how long have you two been together?" or "when's your anniversary?" and then you know he's been saying good things and that you are indeed his GF.