Have you ever cheated on a significant other.
Yes.
Should you/did you tell them that you did. Exceptions?
I told one and I didn't tell the other
Would you want to know? Why?
NO! I've been told, and I'd rather not know if it was a fleeting, one time, I made a stupid mistake kind of thing--telling relieves the cheater of some guilt, but gives the cheated on a lot of pain. bear the pain of knowing what you did as punishment, don't hurt the one you love further.
EXCEPTION--if you had unsafe sex. Then you HAVE TO TELL.
What would you do if you found it they did that to you? Stay together etc?
Depends on the relationship and the circumstances.
OF COURSE, I can argue for and against my feelings on all these questions, this is just my gut reaction based on a not too serious or long term relationship. If you plan on marrying the person you are with, one, WHY ARE YOU CHEATING and two, Your relationship needs the honesty and communication to survive.
[This message has been edited by amycat412 (edited May 17, 2001).]
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