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Sometimes it is very hard for people to quit or pull away from something. So it can take a long time to actually do it, even if they have been having doubts.
There's also a lot of pressure on unitiated members who are unsure to "stick with it" and try to make things work-- pressure from the new member coordinator, big sister, and other new and initiated member who whole-heartedly just want the unsure member to feel as good about the experience as they do.
Different strokes for different folks. Sometimes, at a young age, the thought of being ostracized by a group of friends for leaving the group is worse than not enjoying the group at all... so they stick it out, only to drop the group when they feel a stronger sense of self and the ability to do it. Money spent, time wasted and the ineligibility to join another society are not considerations while the thought of hurting other people's feelings is paramount in the person's mind.
I'm sure your friend just did what she thought was right at the time. And what is college, if not a place to make mistakes and learn more about yourself?
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