I'm a girl, if you didn't know, but I want to give MY observations.
I went to a small school, about 3600 students. There was ONE bar in the town. I bartended there for a while (which was a blast, but that's beside the point) and got to watch all the 'action' from nutral ground.
From my observations, I have to agree with DGPhoney. I think it's a personality thing and that means different approches. Certain men know what works best for them.
I've been out dancing on the dance floor with my girlfriends or sisters and noticed a guy across the room standing at the bar just watching. Sometimes, depending on the man, they pull it off really well and that would be the best approch for him because I'll notice him and be drawn to his gaze--later we'd bump into each other 'accidently' and exchange conversation/numbers. On the other hand, I've been on the dance floor with a sexy guy and he dances really well and that is a total turn on.
I think perhaps your question stems from the fact that you'll probably see more white men standing by the bar drinking because they (sorry for the stereotype here, but it IS an observation of mine) just don't dance very well. Some white men are great dancers, but I'd have to say that I've seen very few GREAT ones. It doesn't mean they 'don't have game', I'd just say it limits their approch. (my Fiance is included in the 'white men can't dance' theory--I probably turned 40 shades of red when he tried to 'break it down' at his 10 year reunion--I think I was traumatized by that experience).
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