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Like 3 pages ago I apologized for anyone who felt offended and it continued from there. The apology was completely overlooked and disregarded
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The reason that it was overlooked was that you immediately went back to arguing back and forth with my brothers. If I step on your foot, apologize, and step on your foot again while justifying why I felt that stepping on your foot was necessary, you wouldn't take my apology seriously either.
Stepping into pledge trainer mode:
What are you gaining by arguing with my brothers? What are you seeking to accomplish? What has given you the knowledge and experience to dispute anything about an organization that you are not a part of with people who are? If you see that no matter how hard you try to get everyone to see your perspective, you are unsuccessful and are further angering brothers, why are you continuing? Is the desire to be "right" more important than showing deference to people who are your potential brothers?
I remember what it is to be a pledge. When I was a pledge I saw brothers as people who knew more about Alpha Phi Omega than I did and those I could learn from. I approached brothers as such and reaped the awards thereof. I was able to get some older brothers from my chapter to sit down with me and share some of their experiences and knowledge with me. I was only able to have these experiences because of my HUMBLE attitude towards those in the organization.
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GOLDEN MESSAGE: If a brother said something about Alpha Phi Omega that I did not agree with (and that did happen), I did not feel the need to correct, argue, or even question his or her knowledge because I understood that as a pledge, I only had a part of the big picture. It did not take anything away from me not to argue. I did not feel like less of a person and I still felt like I had a valid point that I would express at an appropriate time.
I hope that you take this post in the spirit in which it was written (which was that of Alpha Phi Omega in its truest sense). Good luck on the rest of your pledge process and I hope that you continue to grow and that you do finally get to see the light of Alpha Phi Omega.
ANY FURTHER COMMENTS TO ME SHOULD BE SENT TO MY PM BOX