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I'll admit that it's been hard for me to "distance" myself from my chapter. My boyfriend is still a collegiate and a very active member of his fraternity, so I'm definitely in town often, and I only live 15 minutes away from campus. My sisters were my absolute best friends, and it's really hard to step back from that. At the same time, I don't want to be overbearing or "lame", so I've tried to limit how much time I spend with the entire sorority. I've stayed close with a few sisters in particular, and most of them are older, but I can think of 2 or 3 girls that are only sophomores that I consider good friends.

For the most part, I've only been going to events when invited, such as helping out with Recruitment. I stopped by at a Recruitment retreat one afternoon because we don't have a Recruitment Advisor right now because ours moved out of state, and I thought the girls might need help with the younger girls, or just doing something simple like making nametags. Our President (who is one of my very good friends) went out of town this weekend our boyfriends' fraternity has been hanging out with these 3 cool girls. Normally she would have brought them out, but I did it instead since she couldn't. These girls hit it off with our sisters fabulously, and I'm glad I did take them out to our movie night, because otherwise we might not have been able to show them how much fun it is to be Greek.

I will say it's really hard to not put your 2 cents in all the time, especially when you were fairly well-respected. I've just seen other alumnae stick their nose in the chapter's business too much, and that's why I'm trying to butt out unless my opinion is asked or my presence is requested.