Kevin,
Even as a women, I agree with you! Take for example a "clique" of girls who hang out at a fraternity house. All of them are friends with all the guys, until one of the guys makes one of them mad and now that guy isin't talked to by ALL of the girls, yet the girls still hang out there and are friends with everyone else!
Or when you have any group, with a mix of guys and girls I have noticed this: when a friend breaks up with a guy she has been with for years, a guy the rest of us call our friend (as he has become part of the group) he is GONE. But when a guy breaks up with a girl, she can still hang out in the group witht he rest of the girls. You know what I mean?
In most of the friendships we all enter, we enter naively(?). When we do get burned (like the girl you thought was a good friend) it should only make us respect and enjoy the friendships that we have with everyone else! Kinda like what you said about Hottie and the girls!!
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Sarah
Sister Lots-a-Heart, #9
President, Iota Beta Chi Sorority
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