i think that there are less and less of us who go away to college expecting to meet our future husband/wife there. i, for one, am not doing serious husband hunting (but then again i'm only a sophomore). i figure i'll have fun, hook up, and if i meet someone who i'd want to get engaged to, great, but i'm not really planning on it. i think that kids today no longer go to college as a means of getting the "mrs." degree. i know that's not why i'm there. i'm there to get a great education, become a more well-rounded human being, and to have fun. meeting my future husband at school is not an expectation that i brought when i started college, so i'm not stressing about whether or not i'll be married the summer after i graduate or whatever. in fact, the thought of getting married at 22 makes me shudder (even though my own parents did just that!). i'm 19 now but i still feel so young. i can't see how i would be emotionally ready to marry someone in 3 yrs, but that doesn't mean that i don't want what my parents have, someday in the more distant future (like age 25 or 26). getting married right out of college just doesn't seem to be taken for granted anymore, but i don't think that means that the basic values have changed. young people just want to enjoy their freedom and autonomy for a few more years, and i don't know why they shouldn't.
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