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Originally posted by winneythepooh7
True. True. The reason I make this statement is because I see people move in with S.O.'s and then it seems eons before they get engaged, if they actually do..............You hear stuff like "oh he's saving for the ring" or "we want to be more financially stable or know where we are living" and what not.........If you know you love a person enough to live with them and you have been dating for awhile I think that engagement should be an appropriate next step. (Not saying he has to pay 10g's on a ring but you know what I mean................).
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My boyfriend and I just moved in together last week. We are not engaged, but we know that we are going to get married. I agree with you that the engagement ring should have been the appropriate next step; however, we bought a house together instead. He was renting an apartment, I was renting an apartment, and we spent most of our time together anyway. Combine both of our rents and bills, it financially made sense to purchase a house and actually make money off our monthly bills. We are both "financially stable," so that is definately not the reason I don't have a ring yet. (I think he's waiting for our 4 year anniversary and this house purchase just happened to occur before the date of our anniversary.)
In a way, us purchasing a house together (with a 30 year mortgage commitment) is worth more than a ring to me. We're bonding and learning so much more about each other because we're living together. Yes, it's tough sometimes, but well worth it. Besides, I think moving in with your significant other forces you to learn how to deal with things that you would normally run away from in a relationship. But I guess it's all about your personal preference. No answer to this question can be right or wrong.
