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I agree with ktsnake for the most part. I think that in a good, healthy relationship, both parties just go with it and the exclusivity is implied. Nobody is feeling insecure because you're both confident about the other person's feelings. IF your value systems dictate that in order to be sleeping together, you must be exclusive, then that should be communicated before the event occurs. I don't think that has to be done as "the talk". Hopefully you're sharing your belief systems, etc and finding them compatible before you get to that point. I don't think anybody wants that dropped on them and I knew a lot of women who assumed things were exclusive because they were sleeping together and their SO wasn't on the same page and wouldn't have taken them to bed if they knew that exclusivity was implied. I don't think these "exclusively dating" situations mean much anyway. The only real committment is marriage.
Dee
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