[pinkyphimu]

is it really about fitting into your house's stereotype? does the stereotype ever really fit a chapter? i know mine didn't. i guess i am just confused. are you unhappy with your house because you have internal problems/ don't get along with your sisters/ have no friends in the house/ wish you hung out with "better" fraternities, etc? if it is because you are just sitting around wishing that you were an abc instead of an xyz, then i bet you really haven't gotten a chance to really befriend the other women in the chapter. sometimes when we are so caught up in looking at the other side of the street...we ignore our own side and the grass grows wild and our lawn is filled with weeds. if you feel like your sisters don't call or haven't noticed how you may have withdrawn...then that is definately something you can fix. people are not mind readers...if you say no three times to requests to go out, etc, then they will stop asking. instead of people saying, "gee, i wonder if everything is ok" they will probably think you are just too busy/snobby/otherwise involved, etc. the world will not stop to fit you into it...you definately have to put your self out there and get involved. you don't need to run for president to be involved, but go to sisterhood nights...attend dinners...socials, etc. with a smile and really get to know the women you are with. unfortunately, since you have been initiated, you do not have the chance to become an abc (well, if all groups are npcs), so it is really not worth spending time wondering about the "what ifs." for the rest of your life, you will be an xyz and will have opportunities to meet women who are xyzs from the fat/blonde/peppy/nerdy/weird/happy/well-rounded/ top tier/ bottom tier/ somewhere in between tier chapters.....and they will all be your sisters.