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I thought I would post my story so you know you are not alone.

When I went through rush, it was my freshman year. I had only heard of one of the sororities before, XYZ, so I thought thats where I would go, but then i met people in ABC and like it too. For pref. I was one of very few girls invited back to all 3 sororities. I chose though only to go to XYZ and ABC's pref. and not the 3rd sororties.Then on my pref. card I put only 2 and did not inclue the 3rd one at all, they were very small and I thought they were kinda weird. So the 3rd was not even an option for me at all.

Anyways, bid day, I got a call from my rho chi,( who at the time I didn't know was a sister in the 3rd sorority) and she told me I did not get a bid from the 2 sororities. I was devestated and cried all morning. But later that afternoon the 3rd sorority called offering me a snap bid. I didn't know what to do, but I reluctantly said yes, b/c I wanted to be in a sorority. Well, after getting to know the sisters I was realized, yes I was totally different from them, but they tried their hardest to make me feel welcome. At the time it was hard b/c my roommate went ABC and the ABC president actually told me I would have been an ABC if I had put them first and not 2nd on my pref. card. But I was in this 3rd sorority now, it took me awhile to realize that I could not change the past and what happened was meant to happen for some reason.

I did end up depinning my sophmore year, but regretted every min. of it and I am proud to say I just got my membership reinstated a month ago!! I helped my sorority grow, everyone says that I was different from the other sisters and people could relate to me more and I worked so hard to make sure everyone on campus knew we were "normal" girls and not weird. The sisters in the chapter now, I recruited heavily through COB and now the chapter is growing and becoming the "it" sorority. Sorority images change all the time. You can work hard to make your sorority the "it" sorority, and make it your own. Anyways, thats my story, so I have been where you have been. I am proud now to say I am an AST and have realized this is where I am meant to be.