[valkyrie]

Okay seriously, what does the concept of "making your sorority what you want it to be" involve exactly? We're giving butterflyblue a lot of advice here, but is it really realistic? How much impact can one person have on an organization, and how?

I understand the concept of trying to bring about change in a collegiate chapter by taking on a leadership role and working hard at recruitment and things like that, but is that really getting to the heart of the issue here?

When I hear someone say that she's unhappy with her organization, I tend to think that it's less about what her sisters look like (although that was mentioned here) and what fraternities they hang out with and their organization's role on campus. What if someone is just not compatible with most of the other members? That's not really something that can be changed -- if everyone in your house wants to listen to Bryan Adams, do laundry on a Friday night, have Bible study and talk about their glorious high school days on a farm in Iowa, how do you relate to them when you're from Chicago and want to go out dancing to house music and don't believe in God? What if that's the problem?

In any event, yes, I encourage you to do what you can to work to change your organization into something better, if that's going to help. Otherwise, if it's more of a compatibility issue, maybe it's not the right place for you, although I would encourage you to keep in mind, as mentioned by others, that your collegiate years are short and your opportunities for alumnae involvement with your organization will be there for the rest of your life.