Adpiucf, you are da woman! I so wanna be you! (I need that bowing smiley)
What she said...and I need to add...get rid of that top tier, bottom tier attitude BS.
XYZ wanted you. Sometimes the grass ain't always greener. XYZ is more than just YOUR chapter. Go to regional conferences. Go to convention...you will find out that XYZ is for you!
It is common to second guess choices...we all do! Get over it!
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Originally posted by adpiucf
Amanda,
It is very common for members to experience feelings of sadness or withdrawal in their second year of membership. Whether XYZ was your first choice or your 10th, it is hard to go from being the petted new member getting presents and special attention, to one of the older sisters who is there to mentor a new class and recruit.
You can't do anything about ABC. You are an XYZ. Clearly, they saw something special in you. I am sure all of the sororities did. You are an XYZ. Dropping out of XYZ isn't going to make you an ABC. To be harsh, you need to get over it.
Go talk to your chapter president or a member of exec about how you are feeling. They will make a special effort to help you feel more welcomed.
But remember-- being in a sorority is not the end-all of life. If you don't like being in a sorority, than drop out. The grass is always greener on the other side and EVERY chapter faces internal drama, conflict, etc... none are perfect, not even the perceived "top" chapters.
So my advice-- you need to get over this and accept how your life is today. Talk to someone you trust, involve yourself in your school work, campus life and sorority life and decide-- do I want to be an XYZ. Also remember, being an XYZ isn't preventing you from being friends with ABC's.
If your biggest problem in life is that you think you're wearing the wrong letters on your t-shirt, you are very lucky person indeed.
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